Sex influences our bodies in two ways: biologically, emotionally. When we have healthy sex with people we trust and know how to please us, sex can improve our moods and increase our love for our partners. On the other hand, unhealthy sex can make us feel worse, lower our self-esteem, and causes us to feel all and alone. But regardless of the reason why you are having sex, there is one thing all people strive for when they get down and dirty: an orgasm.

When a person has an orgasm, they feel like they are experiencing a euphoric high, similar to a runner's high. There is almost nothing better than having a partner who can reliably give you an orgasm every time you two have sex. The only experience better than one orgasm is two. If you're dating a woman, it's best to learn if she is the type of partner who snoozes after she orgasms or if she is ready for round two immediately or after a quick snooze. But what is the reason for the two drastically different sexual reactions, and can you make yourself have multiple orgasms?

The orgasmic divide

For many women and some men, having sex does not mean having an orgasm. Although the issue can happen to both genders, It is much less common for men not to have an orgasm when they engage in penetrative sex than women. Also, men are almost guaranteed to orgasm even with a brand new partner. But over 65% of women say they do not have an orgasm when having sex with a male partner.

On the other hand, women who have lesbian sex will orgasm over 95% of the time, even with a new female partner. But what happens to these women after they have an orgasm? Two common situations happened. The first situation is that they will need to take a quick break and be ready for round 2. The second is that they will roll over and fall asleep. That's the basis of most after orgasm reactions, but let's go a little deeper.

The refractory period

First, let's cover an important term you must know for this article. This term is called the refractory period, and it means the length of time a person's body, primarily their sexual organs, requires it's hard to recover orgasm before they can have another one. There are two types of refractory periods, the physical refractory period and the mental refractory period.

The physical refractory period is where the body cannot produce the hormones and fluids necessary for comfortable sex. In men, they will not have an erection, and four women will not produce vaginal fluids.

The mental refractory period is when a man or woman cannot get into the mood. They don't feel like thinking about sex, and they don't feel sexual if they are touched sexually. But a mental refractory period doesn't mean the man or woman does not want to cuddle or kiss during the rest of the day. It just means they can't actively think of sexual fantasies and scenarios.

Women who feel energized after an orgasm

No person's sexuality is static over their entire life. Everyone will go through periods of low sexual drive and extremely high sexual drive. That being said, it is a common phenomenon for women who had a low or medium sex drive in their 20s and 30s to suddenly have more sexual energy in their 40s and their 50s.

Gynecologists and female Health doctors propose that the rise in sexual drive is the consequence of changing hormones and decreasing fertility.

As the estrogen drops in a woman's reproductive system, testosterone rises slightly. Testosterone is the sex drive hormone. So older women will have more testosterone and less estrogen in their bodies. For these women, it means they will have a higher sex drive. This hormonal shift usually happens in the years leading up to menopause.

That is one reason why some women are ready to have sex again within an hour of orgasming. But there are other reasons as well. Another major factor is the hormones produced within the women's body that invigorates and energizes her due to her brain's chemical makeup.

Women who want to roll over and sleep after an orgasm

One important reason a woman will roll over and fall asleep after an orgasm is to improve the chances of pregnancy. If a woman who just had an orgasm were to get up and resume her daily activities, she would have to remain upright, and the sperm inside her body would not be able to travel up into her uterus and fertilize her eggs. But if she remains horizontal, she's much more likely to get pregnant.

Sleepiness is evolution's way of improving the chance of pregnancy. The body does not know if the woman used a condom with a male partner or a female condom with her female partner. The body doesn't know if he has a female partner. All It knows is that it just engaged in sex, and it must prioritize fertility.

What do we know about multiple orgasms?

Everybody knows what an orgasm is, but experts have two main definitions when it comes to multiple orgasms. In one definition, multiple orgasms are defined as consecutive orgasms that happen within a brief period of time. Between each orgasm, the woman must stay aroused, and her vulva and vaginal canal stay lubricated.

In another definition, multiple orgasms happen during a certain period of time, like a day. So a woman can have an orgasm in the morning and have another in the afternoon or nighttime. As long as she can create lubrication and reach climax, she can orgasm multiple times.

Both definitions are somewhat accepted, as human bodies are all unique and different in their own way. Humans can have the same experience in different ways.

Women who can have multiple orgasms report that their second, third or fourth climax is nowhere near as strong as the first, but the orgasms are still satisfying.

On the whole, men cannot have multiple orgasms based on the first definition. But they can't have multiple orgasms throughout the day. As stated above, men have to wait for their refractory to be over to have another orgasm. Their second orgasm cannot come immediately after the first one. Depending on the man's biochemistry and hormones, they may have to wait anywhere between 20 minutes and 24 hours.

Youth certainly plays a factor in men's ability to have multiple orgasms. Studies show that a man's ability to have multiple orgasms significantly drops after 30. But another factor that can influence a man's ability to have multiple orgasms is if he restrains himself and does not masturbate between sexual sections.

One aspect of men's ejaculation is that they expel sperm and come when they orgasm. When a man has multiple orgasms throughout the day, they will not expel cum. Their body has not had enough time to regenerate new pre-cum and cum. Depending on the man, it can be perfectly fine or extremely uncomfortable to have an ejaculation-less orgasm.

Can a woman who falls asleep after the big O change her body's response?

Yes, with a little bit of experimentation and an enthusiastic sexual partner or varied sex toys, a woman can experience multiple orgasms throughout the day.

One way to continue having sex after she falls asleep is to wake her up an hour later. Most women won't fall asleep for an entire 8 hours.

Also, if you and your partner want to have around two later in the day, do you have your first sex session in the morning after you wake up. You can have sex in the morning and then have sex again in the afternoon or the nighttime. Spacing out sexual encounters throughout the day is one of the more effective methods of having multiple orgasms. The vast majority of women will not be able to have another orgasm 20 minutes after their first one. But they will be able to have one later in the day.

Never forget the power of foreplay. A woman may not want her genitals touched after she has sex, but she will definitely enjoy cuddling, kissing, and maybe even light groping. Also, you should never fall into the habit of touching your partner only when you want sex. It is never a good idea to start touching each other only when the goal is to have sex. You should be touching and kissing each other throughout the day.

Many women feel like their partners don't touch them unless they want sex. This can ruin or lessen their sexual experience, as women feel as if they only have one function for their partners. In a healthy relationship, both partners should regularly engage in kissing, touching, and making out without the explicit agreement that every encounter must lead to sex. Think of all of the touching and kissing as a way to keep your partner happy and improve their day.

How a person feels about the body

Someone who likes touching their own body and is comfortable with their sexuality is far more likely to have a better sexual experience and have multiple orgasms throughout the day than someone who does not like their body. People with low self-esteem may believe that they are ugly or gross and wants to keep their clothes on when they engage in sex with their partner. These beliefs will make it harder for them to be sexually happy.

So how can a person improve the way they view their body and get in touch with their sexuality? There are several things that a person can do.

• Clean up their diet and exercise more often. It may be a complete cliche to talk about diets and exercise in regards to improving someone's self-esteem about their body, but you'll be surprised at how even the most attractive beautiful people feel like a total trash can when they have a bad diet full of grease, sugar, and low vegetables. Switching to high-quality protein, carbs, and fats and lowering alcohol intake can work wonders and help improve how they feel about themselves. And if a person is reluctant to start exercising, they can always take a brisk walk.
• Buy cute lingerie. No one feels sexy when they're sitting in their granny panties and an oversized sweater. If a person wants to have a fun sexual experience with your partner, both people must look sexy. Better visuals make for a better experience. Perhaps each partner could buy their partner lingerie that they would like to see them in.
• Women who do not have a classic hourglass shape need to start following social media creators with their similar body types. Social media is a self-esteem destroyer. It must be all the fitness men and women who spend 20 hours a week at the gym, eat expensive supplements, and have specially formulated food delivered to them who then turn around and say that anyone can do it. But you would be surprised at how much a person's self-esteem improves when they stop following Fitness gurus and start following artists and creators. Anyone who has a social media account needs to follow beauty and fashion creators who have a similar body type.

Conclusion

Your woman's refractory period can be as little as 20 minutes or as long as 48 hours. Remember that depending on the woman, you can have an orgasm within 20 minutes of her first orgasm, or she can have multiple orgasms by pacing them out throughout the day. But no matter what, never forget the power of kissing, massages, dirty talk, and a good night's sleep.

Also, cleaning up your diet and eating healthier foods, including vegetables, can give your body the nutrition it needs to improve both you and your girl's sex drive. Many women are more likely to have multiple orgasms when they are at a certain point in their menstrual cycle. Also, don't be afraid to experiment with toys. Maybe you can have an orgasm with your partner, but to have a second orgasm, the woman will need a vibrating toy.