How Tinder changed dating nowadays?
A long time ago, in a society with far less technology but better fashion, people who want to date each other had to physically talk to each other, either in person or on the phone. They would then have to find a day that worked for both of them. When the day finally came, then one person would pick up the other person, or they would both meet at the place in their respective cars. They would then sit and chat with each other for quite a while to get to know each other.
This type of dating happens throughout the last hundred years. And then the internet happened. The rise of online dating has forever changed how people young and old find love. In 2019, over 40% of couples say that they met online. In at least five years, that number will be around 50%. In today's world, there are many dating apps and sites you can choose to meet your true love. But one app stands out above the rest, and that is Tinder. Tinder has changed the way a lot of people date, and some wonder if the changes it brought were good.
How has Tinder changed the dating landscape?
Tinder has changed the dating landscape for most people under 50 years old. For many people, it has completely replaced the dating website. On well thought out and planned dating websites, you would first start by filling out a detailed profile, answer important questions that defined your life, and add a series of pictures to show the world who you are. When you were done, then you could search for people that were like you and start with those who were most similar. The farther you moved down the list, the less you had in common with that person. You could also filter by interests, hobbies, or industry. And after you got the perfect mix of people that you wanted with the right filters activated, you slowly searched through the list of names, looking at each profile and writing them a message if you liked what you saw..
This is not how Tinder works. Tinder is just a list of non-stop people. If anything is important on Tinder, it is your profile picture. That picture will be the only thing most other Tinder users will see about you. Besides a few lines to write about yourself, there is no profile area. People will just see your face and immediately judge you. If you don't like them, swipe them away, and another one appears. It's a dating app with the endless scrolling feature of Instagram and TikTok.
But what happens if you do decide to slowly scroll through every user's profile and write them a custom message? Not much. As we said before, users are now more judgmental and pickier than ever, and they know they don't have to message you back. Plus, reading individual profiles and creating tailored messaged means you're doing a lot of work to just be rejected without reason. But Tinder was never meant to be an app where you find your lifelong partner. When it first debuted, it was supposed to be a hookup app. It is obvious that it was supposed to be for one-night stands and for finding friends with benefits. The most important part of a person's Tinder profile page is their picture. So, the app is designed to make people judge each other on their looks. But as more people started to use the app for various purposes, even finding friends, the amount and selection of people on the site changed. But the way to approve of a profile didn't.
Complaints about Tinder
One major complaint about Tinder, and dating apps in general, is that the people who make up the users are ruder towards other people, are less forgiving and judgmental when you open their DMs and try to talk to them. Also, the other users quickly dismiss you for any reason and don't try to connect with you at all. Since everyone is behind the screen and not looking at a real person, any politeness we were trained to perform since we were in kindergarten has disappeared.
Another way using apps has changed the way we interact with each other is that we can now talk to anyone and arrange to meet them at any time. In our hands, we hold access to over 10,000 people at any given time. The amount of people that we can go through is endless, and as a result, we have become more detached. Some people even say that modern dating app has now turned romance into a numbers game. The user can quickly swipe through dozens and dozens of pictures, approving them all just to maximize the likelihood of them getting a message back. People don't try to look at each other's profiles and actually see if talking to that person would result in meaningful conversation based on mutual interest.
Conclusion
No matter how we find our next date or are husband or wife to be, we should always make sure that we are considerate and kind to other people. Every single person on dating apps knows how to act politely. They have no excuse to treat each other so coldly. But perhaps people have been romanticizing the dating world before apps. To those who came before, dating was just as terrible and mind-numbing, but in a different way. You had to go out of your home every time you wanted to meet someone new. You had to make sure you looked nice every time you went out, and you could put in all that effort and still get a dud as a date. Now, you don't have to leave your home to be disappointed!! Just kidding, but seriously. Dating and romance have never been easy. It doesn't matter what year you are from or what technologies you're using, finding someone who loves you and wants to be yours is very difficult and time-consuming. We can blame apps all we want for our frustrating love life, but we're just upset that we haven't found our special someone yet.